She explained what happened.
My (33f) and my husband Matteo (31m) have been married for 4 months, together for 3 years. When we were dating, his mom used to randomly call him up and ask for money, anywhere from 2-6 thousand dollars. He told me that she had been doing it for years, but he didn’t care because he had a high-paying job and had the disposable income to give her money.
My FIL is a successful businessman in his city, and I was told that they had joint accounts, so I always found it a bit odd that she asked her son for money. When we got engaged, we discussed his mom’s monetary requests and my husband agreed he would put an end to it, and he did. She stopped calling after he refused to give her money.
Last Tuesday my MIL called and asked my husband for 15 thousand dollars, she said she needed it for vacation. After he told her no, she sent me a lengthy text message saying that I had no right to get involved in a mother’s relationship with her son, I didn’t respond. I asked my husband if his parents were having money troubles, and he said that everything was fine as far as he knows.
Well, today my FIL and SIL (husband’s younger sister) came over for lunch. My FIL was helping us choose a bottle of wine when I asked him if everything was okay at home, he looked at me confused and asked what I was talking about. That’s when my husband told him about her calling us for money.!
It turns out that my MIL has been secretly asking my husband for money in cash. My FIL told us that she was withdrawing cash from the bank last year and told him it was to help pay for our wedding, but she lied, she never gave us a dime. We were told tonight that she was using the money to buy lavish gifts for her friends and pay their rent.
My FIL left immediately and hours later my MIL called crying saying that I had a big mouth and ruined her life. My FIL wrote us a check to pay us back and is temporarily separated from my MIL until he feels he can trust her again. My husband’s maternal relatives are calling us and saying that I’m the bad guy.
People stood on her side.
- She didn’t ask for $200, she asked for $15,000. You SHOULD have been concerned if everything was ok. © Tomboyish717 / Reddit
- I love it how MIL blamed you when her own son is the one who told her “No” when she asked to borrow money. Some MILs seem to believe that the son they raised is incapable of thinking for themselves. She and her family then blamed you for telling her husband that she was asking for money, when again it was her own son. “My son wouldn’t do this to me! It must be his wife, despite what everyone else has said!” Your MIL sounds like a real winner. © naranghim / Reddit
- What a leech of a MIL. I do find it strange though that the topic hasn’t been talked about, ever before. Like seriously? If Mom asked me for that much money, the first thing I’d do is check in with Dad. © IllustriousShake6072 / Reddit
- When it’s $20 buck here or there is one thing but asking for thousands regularly? No, that should get anyone’s attention. All you did was inquire of your FIL if he needed help. MIL was deceitful to you and to her husband, and it blew up in her face. © the_RSM / Reddit
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- At first I thought maybe FIL had been financially abusive or at least restrictive with her, and that maybe she hadn’t worked because he was so successful and wanted her to be home to control her, as can happen, and she was asking her son for money so she could access things that she had been denied. Then I read that she had also been withdrawing large amounts of money from their shared account and that FIL hadn’t questioned it. She’s obviously addicted to spending and isn’t able to keep up with it on her own. $15,000 for a trip? What was she going to do once she borrowed that money and then obviously didn’t take the trip? How did she expect that no one would ever catch on when she’s saying things like she’s paying for your wedding when she didn’t? She’s living in a fantasy and quite obviously is much too comfortable with lying. I can’t imagine what else she has said, I’d question anything she’s ever told you at this point. © lady_sisyphus / Reddit
- You didn’t approach him and say, “Hey, your wife keeps asking us for money, what’s wrong?” You were CONCERNED that they may be having trouble and asked him if everything was OK. Your MIL is a piece of work — throwing around money that isn’t hers and probably telling everyone how she supports your lifestyle as well. I wonder how many people at your wedding thought SHE paid for it? Now that she got caught, she’s angry. Hopefully she’s going to learn a lesson from this. © Unknown author / Reddit
Here’s the story of a woman who discovered that her husband married her for money. The true nature of her husband was revealed to her after her father’s death.
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