Anna reached out to our editorial team.
Anna began her letter, “My husband and I have been happily married for over 10 years. I always thought we had an ideal relationship, and I believed he truly loved me. But his behavior during a critical time in our lives made me question his feelings and his character.”
She continued, “We had a serious fight before our daughter’s birth. Out of nowhere, he casually suggested a paternity test for our baby when she was born. Let me explain my feelings about it. This was completely out of the blue; he didn’t provide any reason. I’m a part-time worker who works remotely with no male friends other than my brother.”
“I asked him if he was accusing me of infidelity, and he said he ’just wanted to be sure.’ He kept bringing it up constantly, and the stress started to make me physically ill. I then told him that I didn’t want to talk to him and left to live at my brother’s house.” Anna’s story highlights the emotional turmoil and distrust that can arise in a relationship when communication breaks down and unfounded suspicions take root.
She was deeply hurt, but still made an effort to fix everything.
Anna shared, “I was devastated about our argument. I thought long and hard about how to fix things between us. I called him while I was away and tried to talk it out, but he refused to speak with me.”
Recalling the events that followed their fight, Anna became very emotional. She wrote, “After being ignored and humiliated, I went back home after two days to grab some things while my husband was at work. That’s when I went into labor. I called him 30 times. I then called my brother, who tried to reach him another half a dozen times while on his way to pick me up and then on the way to the hospital.”
“It was a terrible and traumatic birth. I started crowning in the car, and the doctor had to deliver my daughter in the back of my brother’s van because I was too far along to move. I kept bleeding, so they rushed me to the hospital. It was awful. I hated every moment of it.”
“My brother’s wife, who is a nurse, even told me she honestly thought I wouldn’t make it. I ended up opting for a hysterectomy because it was that or something even more dangerous. I only ever wanted one child, maybe none, but my husband wants a large family. Now, I’m trying to bond with my daughter, but it’s been really hard.”
Anna and her brother decided it was time to give her husband a wake-up call.
Anna shared, “The point is that during this horrible period, while I was returning from surgery—10 hours after I first called—my husband finally responded. He immediately asked why I hadn’t answered his call. At that moment, my brother had my phone and we were both so angry. My brother then said to him, ’Hey, it’s Derek. I’m at the hospital. She didn’t make it.’ And he turned the phone off.”
Anna continued, “My husband rushed over and arrived at the hospital just as I was waking up. He started shouting, and security had to force him out. He didn’t get to see our daughter until the next day because I was asleep and they needed my signature to let him back in.
My whole family thinks it was incredibly cruel, but we all agree he deserved it. My brother keeps telling him that I nearly died because we waited for him. My brother used to be mostly indifferent about my husband, but now he absolutely hates him. You can see it on his face whenever my husband enters the room.”
Anna feels completely adrift due to her husband’s behavior.
Anna went on, “After everything settled down a bit, my husband tried to apologize. He kept saying he didn’t mean to cause so much stress and that he just wanted to be sure about the baby. But his words felt hollow to me. I couldn’t shake the feeling of betrayal. I told him, ’How can I ever trust you again?’”
She continued, “We decided to try counseling, hoping it would help us rebuild our relationship. The sessions were tough. There were a lot of tears, a lot of anger. At one point, I just broke down and told him, ’I needed you. You weren’t there. You chose your doubts over your family.’”
Anna shared, “My brother’s anger towards my husband didn’t fade. He was civil, but you could feel the tension. Every time we had a family gathering, it was like walking on eggshells. My husband felt it too, and it was driving a wedge between us even further.
Eventually, my husband started changing his behavior, trying to prove he could be trusted again. He became more involved with our daughter, helping with every little thing. He told me, ’I want to earn your trust back, Anna. I know I messed up, but I want to fix this.’ It’s been a long journey, and we’re still not fully there yet. But I’m hopeful.”
Here’s an intriguing story about a woman whose husband had a paternity test done on their child, and it came back negative. She swears she never cheated, and she stands by her word. The couple was stunned by the result and decided to do another test, this time using genetic material from both of them. Now, their family is going through an unimaginable ordeal.
